Day -113
Let’s see, it’s been a minute….busy enjoying the summer, finishing my uni term in time to start the next, rattling down the cobra…and enjoying road trips with Charlotte….
Hockey is back on….5 or 6 days a week my life will be hockey rinks….for only the next 7 months….
Last weekend we went to Lusk Caves. We try to do it every few years…Russetts GF Mel sent me a text the next day asking “Were you and Mel B at Luskville together?” She went on to tell me she saw a post from both of us saying we were each there….and after the shock and a review from Mel I realized that she was at the Luskville Falls….I was at the caves…not even close….
Frig…that would have been odd.
I will hike the Luskville Falls in the next few weeks, wait for the leaves to change a bit.
Of the next 9 weeks, I think I’m on the road for 6 of them.
I have been biting my tongue on a bit of Mel B the last few weeks….and now the time has come to relieve that bite.
A friend of mine asked me weeks ago if I was worried that Mel B would come after me for what I write here about her….
The answer is no. It’s simple — the TRUTH is all the defense you need against defamation. Mel was abusive, both physically and mentally, to me…and mentally to my daughter….weekly! The TRUTH.
It comes to my attention that Mel B is telling people she had to put a restraining order against me to get me to stop talking to her.
That is DEFAMATION. It’s a lie!
…I put your junk in garbage bags and threw them on the front lawn….and who wants to hear from you? Certainly not Charlotte! And because of that, not me either….
And I know your side doesn’t feel the same way….I feel terribly for little Avery, the kid needs the help I was patient enough to give her…and I hope you have learned a bit of that patience.
I’m sure there are tons of evil stories you have told everyone about me….how I hounded you over the phone…calling to try to figure out how to get the rest of your stuff out of my house after the help you brought in, while I gave you access to the house without me, couldn’t manage to take anything but 30 rolls of TP and a bunch of gift cards to Nordic and restaurants…which were ours…by the way…
Hey…we had agreed on contact going through those 2 morons you call your friends…lol….if they only knew what you used to say about them…but hey…when you told me Brittany was having trouble with her husband…considering leaving….I knew there would be trouble. Good old Mel B can’t stand someone having more drama than her. That’s about when you started dismantling our relationship…that, white wine, bourbon, and Lexapro.
Who needs that zombie….
Ya I was just going to hang out with your furniture strewn all over my main floor for 3 months awaiting word when you and your friends were going to set a time for me to drop it off…yep…what did I call…10 times in 6 weeks to try to organize a pickup…
drama……
You know what….one of these days I will drop off the hope chest your grandfather made by hand….that wine rack your brother built….You know damn well I am too kind-hearted not to care about these things you love. I don’t know…someday…maybe next time I’m headed past your parents, I will drop it there.
Anyway….when I lost Ev I lost myself….I stayed lost a long long time….There were glimmers of hope… like when you forced me to go to Lusk Falls with you…I found a bit of myself again.
That guy…the active, gym guy, the guy that loves himself and is willing to put in the work towards a long, happy, and active life…you hated him…you don’t have the confidence in yourself to be with me. It’s fine…I get that…it’s not like I didn’t give you as few reasons to doubt….and who knows if there was more….
Well…when that last therapy session exposed how often I insulted myself…and then I realized how often you were doing it….that is when YOU realized it was over. I wasn’t going to stand for it anymore.
I had found myself. I asked you to join me…I asked you to allow it….and I am ok with your decision not to….and mine to end it.
Now I thrive!
For the first time in my life I enjoy being alone….all alone with me. I go to bed alone! I don’t mind. My lord…when I lost Ev I could not be alone………
I focus on Charlotte. On our health.
And the people that come into my life and doubt that….good riddance….I’m not putting up with it….I don’t want to.
113 days from now Charlotte and I are going to Mexico for a week….it’s in the books. If anyone is looking for help booking travel, Trudy Moore. Off to a wonderful vacation, sadly during peak xmas season because of Charlotte’s hockey schedule. We do enjoy the preferred level at Dreams resorts.
And Now….The Weather…
Nothing from Russett…..thinking about you daily bud…..is it true…..I’m not sure.
Let’s start with Slab! Slab has been at a cottage for 2 weeks, no gym. Drinks, chips, marshmallows.
Slab did offer this Pre-Cottage image as a before the fall….into dip….not the season…
We will see if the after arrives after…or a few trips to the gym after….
Pumper...has been more or less steadily dropping pounds, offering a low of 184 pounds. She did manage to follow it up after a night of top-notch chicuterie to 187….and she and I had discussed how a man could easily gain or lose 10 pounds in a week…me at 6’2, no problem, even Russet and half that could drop like a rock if he tightened the screws.
Pumper is considering moving the goal line, which was initially 180.
Suds and Hottub have given up.
YogaGenie….or something…YJ has been posting videos on FB…like useful tips around the house….changing lightbulbs, TP rolls, how to polish the silverware….all important stuff.
She also managed a 165lb squat and is almost benching her bodyweight….
I haven’t heard from Jeremy in a bit but a quick visit to his FB page offers that he and his son were basket weaving this week….do I have to try this? Am I missing out on something? Will see how he is doing and what his plans are.
Krista….hello…Day 1….ish….ishish. 🙂
Yours truly is weighing about 222 these days. Am I fat……the scale says I’m obese.
I think I’m more “beefy”. I’m pretty big right now…lifting really heavy…and here is the plan.
In 113 days I’ll be in Mexico.
I am going to try to have a 6-pack by then….yep…we have all heard that before…..
I am going to spend September trying to bulk up. Get lots of calories and protein into me… try to pack on as much muscle as I can.
Sometime early October I am going to try to lean out. Get into a bit of a calorie deficit while hitting my protein goals.
I will not allow myself to get over 225 on bulk. I want to get to 205….it’s been my goal for years….and hockey season with all its beer drinking and crappy hotel gyms will not help.
The Quote of The Day
You make me want to be a better man. ~Melvin Udall
I have been growing in my space for some time….Am I now the best version of myself…yes.
I have so much more to learn, some lessons will be painful…others will be joyous.
The past 9 months, I have changed the way I feel about myself. I’m frigin happy. Is everything is my space perfect?
Hell NO!
I’m a busy single dad trying to get things done.
So far I have turned my health around…big time. A few hiccups with the peptides but… strictly doctor-prescribed medications from now on 🙂
My relationship with Charlotte is wonderful, and she is doing wonderfully.
I love myself….I really feel great about the person I am….and I know that seems absurd to some of you…but hey….you don’t know me, it seems.
I have enjoyed the best summer of my life. It looks like I’m lifting all Fall, hitting the beach, and then I’m hitting the slopes until the snow melts off the pool once more.
I may even strap myself back into the snowboard!
I may have ruffled a few feathers today….but you are just lucky I’m not throwing anyone under the bus. I have a lot more I could say, but I will save that conversation for one night at the BYC, face to face.
