Tiny Hearts…

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Tiny Hearts…and minds

The only time I cried after writing the man blog yesterday morning…talking to Syd while she was dealing with Todd.



He did not send the signed forms.  He says he will today, I suppose we will get them on Wednesday.  That leaves 16 business days which should be enough.  I’m hoping.

Now…will it arrive.  As most of us know, you can courier between Ottawa and Toronto all day long in about 4-5 hours.  It hits a flight and is picked up to the door without a hitch,  Alternatively any post office, staples, purolator, or ups can give a 9:30, 10:30 or next day guarantee.

We shall see if another promise holds up.

Today’s blog will be angry.  The only bright light in this entire event, Syd is past Todd.  We will never again refer to him as her Father, and I can only thank him for that…for breaking tiny hearts and destroying tiny minds.

You see Todd, this little girls mother passed away 6 weeks ago…and although she was willing to hear you bad mouth her mother on the phone without coming down on you for it…she had a purpose…she wanted you to sign off on her vacation so she wasn’t going to hurt your feelings like you hurt hers…

Smart tiny little thing isn’t she Todd?

Smart tiny little things shouldn’t have to play games with grown ups…even the ones she is smarter than…

Today will not be the first day I don’t cry…

I cry for Syd…

Sign it all Todd…and go away…Syd has told you what she wants…

Evelynj KIndervater Wheeler, Victor Wheeler, RHiannon McIvor Wheeler, Sydney Skinner, Avery Skinner at sunset

In my life I have been blessed with so much love.  And I have so much to give…My babies are happy, I hug them every day, I tell them I love them, we have great memories and plan to build more…

Anyway…more about life and love tomorrow, let’s get to the weight in….

Man Blog Weigh In

Beagle hits the scale this morning at a svelte 190…a ground hog day for him.  He claims his suits are too big, he can’t keep his pants up.

Sean Russett holds up his pants

Now Beagle is not one to carry his pants around all day so I’m sure he will come up with something….

But 190 is pretty good…

Me, I gained a pound yesterday, I’m at 216.4 pounds this morning.  I did good most of the day, eating right, some meat, some veg…not too much of anything…and lots of water…

About 9 pm though, when I was considering going to bed…I may have had 2 sausages…on buns…with cheese…and 4 chocolate covered almonds…those were good…so I may as well have 4 chocolate chip cookies…

Ya…I’m feeding it now…I have to stop that or I’ll find myself above 220…I’ll make it back to 250 plus…

NO update from Parker this early…he likes his sleep…I did see him drinking water again though, he is following the shake diet so he will surely lose weight.

Skinny Trafford?  He is down to 175.8 pounds…

I have to get my act together or I’ll be the fattest one on the beach…but no gym today, a minor surgery yesterday and the doc said no gym for 3 days at least….

I will try not to clear the fridge before bed tonight.

……slow down…Just got an update from Parker, he is at 253.6 pounds.  He is crushing weight, that’s 9 pounds in 5 days….

I really have to get my act together!!!!

The Quote of The Day:

Children learn to smile from their parents.
Shinichi Suzuki

And although my children have shared many tears with me lately, we also share lots of good times…and we will continue to…and we already know it…

I thank those of you that take the time to comment, you support is much appreciated.

Hug your children, hell, hug your neighbor…

Cold…very cold

Love you

  1. Anonymous
    Jan 27, 2015
    The girls are so lucky to have you!!!! Xox
  2. Anonymous
    Jan 27, 2015
    Stay strong and keep doing what you're doing- you are the better man xo
  3. Anonymous
    Jan 27, 2015
    Hi Vic, I am a friend of Evelyn's. I would like to give you some details on your passport issue. please give me a call at 613-###-####. Heather.
  4. Anonymous
    Jan 27, 2015
    Todd, (if you do read these blogs/comments)....please know that your actions are only hurting your daughter -not those who you intend to hurt. As a child who grew up without a Dad and a Mother bent on revenge - it shapes who you become in life. Being in the middle blows, hearing hurtful comments stings. Surely you can set your differences aside and let go of your anger and resentment - life is short!
  5. Anonymous
    Jan 27, 2015
    Wow is all i can say!!!!! The worst thing an adult can do is trash a child's parent!!! Children are so more intelligent than we know and they can figure things out on their own. I just cannot believe that you ALL have to go through this... Haven't you been through enough????? If this child's father is reading this... Shame Shame on you! Do the right thing for these children!!!!!!!!
  6. Anonymous
    Jan 27, 2015
    What sort of "male" would hurt a little girl even more when her mother died only a month ago? I phrased it this way because I just could not write "man" - congratulations to this male -for in the short term he may think he is demonstrating his "control" only to find out later he has lost a daughter's trust and love for the rest of his sorry life. What a stupid trade-off.
  7. Anonymous
    Jan 28, 2015
    I have been enjoying reading your blog everyday. Came across it on FB. I send my smpathies to you and your family. I would love to hear how you and Ev met? What a true, deep love you both shared, so rare! Hopefully, you can share that with us sometime. I look forward to it and in closing, im hoping u receive that paperwprk in order to get yourselves off on that trip! Xo
  8. Anonymous
    Jan 28, 2015
    Does Todd have a last name?